I’m struggling to maintain friendships with people who have kids. How do I connect?

Staying connected through diverging experiences is difficult, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but doing so may future-proof your friendships

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I’m in my mid-30s and childfree by choice. I’m struggling to maintain friendships with people who have kids. Understandably they need to prioritise their children but more and more I find myself unable to have conversations with them. I like my friends’ kids, but often end up caring for them alongside the parents when I don’t feel comfortable doing this in case I get it wrong. I’ve had friends thank me for helping them with childcare when I thought we were meant to be socialising.

It’s hard to see incredible women lose their confidence and doubt themselves when they become parents. I don’t know how to support them, other than telling them they’re good parents and not to give themselves a hard time. I don’t want to add to their stress by saying I’m feeling distance from them.

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