‘It is ruining my life’: I divorced my husband after his affair. Decades later the other woman is back

Time cannot heal all wounds, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, but you don’t have to move on completely to leave this pain in the past

I divorced my husband after his affair eroded our 22 year marriage (three children). We then had new spouses for another 20 years. He has now left his wife and is with the woman he was involved with during our marriage (her husband died).

My children were initially abhorred by this union once I told them who she was, and the pain the affair caused me. She frequented our house whilst the affair was going on. But my children are slowly accepting her.

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