My aunt invited everyone to a family Christmas party the day after mine. Is she being toxic? | Leading questions

It’s hard to say for sure whether this behaviour was unacceptable, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith. But is it part of an ongoing pattern?

I sent a mass invitation for our family Christmas party for Christmas Day. The next day my aunt invited everyone over to her house for our family Christmas party, the day after Christmas. I cannot find one person outside my family that thinks that wasn’t completely rude. I see this as toxic behaviour on her part and support of bad behaviour from the rest of the crew. I took a week to get some perspective and see if others thought I was being oversensitive.

Am I off-base or is this just not acceptable behaviour from my family? I feel as though we have all lived with this bad behaviour for so long we can’t even identify it any more.

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