My husband was hopeless with our babies and I’m still angry. How do I forgive him? | Ask Annalisa Barbieri

It’s no wonder you are furious, despite your husband’s attitude improving. But living with this resentment is not sustainable

My husband and I have been married for seven years, and we have three young children. Before we got married, we talked about having kids and both agreed we wanted three.

However, when I got pregnant with our first, my husband didn’t seem to care. He showed me no consideration when I felt unwell during the pregnancy, and when our first baby was born he barely interacted with her, sleeping in a different room so as not to be bothered by her at night, and refusing to take her out in the pram during the day so I could rest. He came home from work late and insisted on a significant amount of alone time at weekends. Getting him to do a nappy change was a huge fight. It was as if he thought our daughter was nothing to do with him.

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