My husband’s illnesses destroyed our savings. His well-off family won’t help us. How do I not hate them?

It is misleading to think that anger can only end in loathing or forgiveness, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith, when anger can be used productively too

My husband and I are retired teachers. He is 81. He had a devastating stroke four years ago, and I have been his 24/7 caretaker ever since. (He also has diabetes, cancer, epilepsy and pulmonary fibrosis.)

His illnesses have destroyed our life savings, and we are running out of money. His two adult children, both very well off, have abandoned him. His sister has $60m in the bank, and will not lift a finger to help. My question, and it’s a serious one: how do I not hate them?

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