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Turning up at a party in the same outfit as someone else can be awkward, but one summer in New York, a sartorial coincidence blossomed into romance

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Kay first caught my eye at a house party in Brooklyn. Not because she was beautiful (she was), or because she spoke in a jaunty Australian accent (she did), but because she and I were wearing almost exactly the same outfit.

It was a popular look in the summer of 2017: a black dress paired with a jean jacket or chambray shirt, the buttons casually undone.

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