Why do I long for my late husband while my current one ails?

Allow yourself the sorrow of the passing of time and of the loss of your long ago first husband

The question My problem isn’t really that serious, but may become so if I don’t get advice on how to deal with it.

I’m in my late 70s, in reasonably good health and married for the past 30 years to a very kind and loving man who is now 90. He’s still OK, but needs more looking after, which I do want to do for as long as I can. But why do I keep thinking about and longing for my first husband, who died after six years of marriage in a car accident more than 35 years ago?

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